3 – Procrastination

Anyone out there have the cure for procrastination?  I would so like a quick fix on that one. I know we all have a little procrastination in us and if I were to evaluate my level of procrastination I would say it is the theme of keeping me a “last minute Lucy.”  You know what I mean?

I am interested in so many things and therefore am often juggling many things at once. This is designed by choice and brings me a lot of joy and inspiration.  In essence, by nature, I am signed up for more than I can accomplish in the 24 hours of the day.  (If I could rock 4 hours of sleep, I might be on to something!) That being said, if in all that I am engaged in, I have clarified something I will for sure do that day, I find myself doing it late, late into the night.  Like this here blog post.  Ugh!

I know it’s not complicated to unravel procrastination.  I’d just like to not do it anymore.  I’d like it to be that simple.  I won’t procrastinate anymore.  Hmm.  I don’t think that will work.  Plus I have learned from some smartee pants people that putting anything in the negative is a sure fire way of not making it happen.  Let’s try this again.

My intention is to set realistic goals for myself, honoring who I am, my inquisitive and always learning nature, while finding abundant daily completions.  I will place my energy first, on those high dividend items.

AKA: Do less. Do the most important stuff first. Do less. :-)

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4 – Goodbyes

This will be short and sweet.  It’s more an ode to a past way of being.

I am not good with goodbyes (in the past).  But not in the way you are thinking.  I am not openly afraid of goodbyes and therefore avoid them, you know those individuals that say, “I cannot say goodbye so I’ll say farewell or see you later.”

Rather, I have been so afraid of goodbyes (in the past) that I unconsciously would obsess over there impending inevitability, in turn co-creating them sooner.  Either that or I (in the past) would create reasons to part and fulfill the goodbye because at least then I am aware and in control of when the goodbye is occurring.  Nuts, right?  I know you relate, though. At least one of you do. :-)

Here is the thing.  I experienced a lot of goodbyes when I was young.  Although I didn’t realize the effect this had on me until I was in my 30’s, that is the bottom line.  As a little girl, those goodbyes were hard.  Because I was a resilient little girl, I swept those feelings under the rug, had no conscious idea they would later formulate aspects of my personality and went about my business.  Fast forward 35 years later and I can see now how instead of waiting for an impending goodbye, I would instead quietly, slowly, unconsciously (in the past) instigate the goodbye.  Better sooner than later.  Ha!

It gets better.  I cannot really keep to the goodbye.  I have to go back and go back again because goodbye never meant forever; it was temporary then, so why wouldn’t it be temporary now?  Right?!?  Right.

Here we are now.  I am letting that go, that way of being.  I am no longer afraid of a goodbye since all of life is an impending goodbye at some point.  Our time here is temporary.  I know this and I would much rather be in it, fully in it, not consciously or unconsciously focusing on when I may not be in it.  That is just silly nonsense.  Whew!  I am so glad we cleared that one up.

Who’s next?

P.S. I release my parents from any liability or responsibility.  The therapy bills are paid and talking to God is free. :-)  I am a Soul having a human experience and all of it, all of this, is exactly on purpose.  No mistakes, no regrets.

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11 – Love I

gratitude picThis image and words of Rumi remind me of the Love that I am consciously deepening in with myself.  I have come to understand and believe that all that I feel, in every moment, is in direct relationship to the Love that I am experiencing with myself.  If I am embracing who I am, being gentle and kind with myself, accepting my choices and letting it all be okay, I experience grace and ease.  I feel lighter, see brighter and feel at peace.  If on the other hand, I fall asleep in my head :-) and forget that I can do this and choose this and I awaken feeling tired and grumpy and I judge that because I wanted to feel a different way when I woke up, then chances are the person driving in front of me isn’t doing it right.  I am keenly aware of how it’s tough to find parking on my street and that train of thinking ensues.

It’s that simple.

I am not saying it is always simple to make the choice.  I am saying it is simply about how much Love will I share with myself that day.  Love makes all the difference.  When I choose into the Love, I am essentially emancipated from the self-doubt, from fear, and the notion that I am in control and need to hold tight to that.  When that awareness of surrender is in me, I am empowered, enormously creative, joyful and my energy is magnetic – meaning it is reflected back to me in all those I encounter and that is amazing.  That is Love.

What’s is gonna be for you today?

For your consideration…

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14 – Meditation

I am a newbie when it comes to meditation and I spent many years thinking and claiming that I didn’t know how.  I understood the concept of creating stillness and emptying my mind and I thought since I had little luck emptying my mind, I was definitely not meditating and therefore, I did not know how.  What I have come to find out, –  that was meditation. The intention, focus, and pursuit of stillness leads exactly there.  It might be that I actually experience ten seconds here and five seconds there where I found some emptiness of the mind, some stillness.  And the sum total is meditation.  The experiencing of quieting, even intermittent with interruptions of the mind, is meditation.

Listening to my breath or even focusing on deepening in my breath by filling up my lower belly, my lung/rib area, and then my chest has been another gateway to experiencing meditation.  Doing that process five to ten times in a row will bring on a quieting.  I understand there to be all kinds of ways, methods, modalities to deepen in meditation.  I have read that true meditation is complete stillness and I have such better results when I play my “Calm – Meditation” station on pandora, set my iPhone alarm for fifteen minutes and fade away to the melodious sounds.  If I find a little mind chatter I try to go back to listening for my breath until I am no longer consciously thinking about anything.  It’s doable with some time and attention.

I recently participated in the Deepak + Oprah “Perfect Health” 21 Day Meditation Challenge.  It was a nice process and it had me wishing I could receive one of those daily emails forever.  I found that my days were just more fluid and soft.  I was able to relinquish any charged energy to the process and sink in to each day.  Because I chose to commit to the 21 days, I deepened in my overall meditation process.  One tip on that is, I threw away all the rules.  If I felt like listening to the meditation laying down in my bed, that is what I did. It was the journey and how I was going to be a passenger on it that created the foundation for a deepening, a place I could recognize and return to.

A few more benefits I would add from meditation:

inner peace – you will just feel more quiet and calm

space – is created within that can directly affect how we respond to life and living – things happen and instead of reacting, you pause before responding or better yet you don’t feel the need to respond at all

feelings of joy and abundance – in the peace and quiet we are left with our innate nature which is simple and easy to please – when you are at peace, you “need” very little.  That feeling of realizing you are whole, is pure joy!

transcendence – things that may have a had on hold on you, lift, diminish and fall away completely

gratitude – the humility and humbleness come front and forward when we gift ourselves with this time; we can be in gratitude with ourselves for doing something we didn’t think we knew how to do and this simple awareness creates such gratitude inside of us

overall mindfulness – which can directly affect the unconscious things we can do like overeat, drink or other non-self-honoring decisions

the list goes on and on…

So I offer up a new meditation offering, beginning this Monday, April 23 for 21 days.

Please join me.

For your consideration…

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15 – Pressfield (Poet)

I hope you don’t think me a cheater, letting Mr. Pressfield write my post today.  And I just came across this excerpt and how timely it was for me!  Pretty much anything this man writes is poignant, spot on, and worth soaking in.  He is genius with his direct clarity, speaking the truth of what we humans do; how crafty we can be at holding ourselves back, getting in our own way, and casting doubts on our dreams.  His books are master pieces and a huge missed opportunity if not read.  I am a little enthusiastic about this guy!

For your consideration…

Excerpt from “The War of Art” by Stephen Pressfield

Resistance feeds on fear. We experience Resistance as fear. But fear of what?  Fear of consequences of following our heart. Fear of bankruptcy, fear of poverty, fear of insolvency.  Fear of groveling when we try to make it on our own, and of groveling when we give up and come crawling back to where we started. Fear of being selfish, of being rotten wives or disloyal husbands; fear of failing to support our families, of sacrificing their dreams for ours. Fear of betraying our race, our ‘hood, our homies. Fear of failure. Fear of being ridiculous. Fear of throwing away education, the training, the preparation that those we love have sacrificed so much for. That we ourselves have worked our butts off for. Fear of launching into the void, of hurtling too far out there; fear of passing some point of no return, beyond which we cannot recant, cannot reverse, cannot rescind, but must live with this cocked-up choice for the rest of our lives. Fear of madness. Fear of insanity. Fear of death.

These are serious fears. But they’re not the real fear. Not the Master Fear, the Mother all Fears that’s so close to us that even when we verbalize it we don’t believe it. Fear That We Will Succeed. That we can access the powers we secretly know we possess. That we can become the person we sense in our hearts we truly are. This is the most terrifying prospect a human being can face, because it ejects him at one go (he imagines) from all the tribal inclusions his psyche is wired for and has been for fifty million years. We fear discovering that we are more than we think we are. More than our parents/children/teachers think we are. We fear that we actually possess the talent that our still, small voice tells us. That we actually have the guts, the perseverance, the capacity. We fear that we truly can steer our ship, because if it’s true, then we become estranged from all we know. We pass through a membrane. We become monsters and monstrous.  We know that if we embrace our ideals, we must prove worthy of them.  And that scares the hell out of us. What will become of us? We will lose our friends and family, who will no longer recognize us. We will wind up alone, in the cold void of starry space, with nothing and no one to hold on to.

Of course this is exactly what happens. But here’s the trick. We wind up in a space, but not alone. Instead we are tapped into an unquenchable, undepletable, inexhaustible source of wisdom, consciousness, companionship. Yeah, we lose friends. But we find friends too, in places we never thought to look. And they’re better friends, truer friends. And we’re better and truer to them.

Do you believe me?

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16 – Tapping

Have you heard of tapping?  It is a new (newer) phenomena where by tapping on to certain parts of ourselves, our meridians, while saying statements out loud, yes, out loud,  it’s possible to release or relieve whatever “ailment” we might be experiencing.  I am serious.  I actually tried the one in the first link below and felt relief in my lower back.  Call me “woo woo” if you like. :-)

Here’s the thing, I am open.  I like to learn.  When I hear about something that seems slightly plausible especially as it relates to ways of empowering myself to heal and care for myself, I am in.  I prefer never to be in victim consciousness and I have an insatiable desire to learn.  This motivates my engagement and willingness to try things many others might not.  (However I do believe the planet is shifting and a lot of things many were not open to are becoming so.  No doubt, the internet, has A LOT to do with that.)

All that being said, here is some info on tapping:

An interview with cool and quirkly Maria Forleo:
(you can skip towards the end if you just want to demo a “tapping script”)

The Tapping Solution website and info trailer:


A Huff Post article from Nick Ortner:


There are many other resources out there regarding tapping and these ones inform nicely and clearly.

For your consideration…


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18 – Tale

What story or tale are you telling yourselves these days about yourself?  It may be crystal clear or somewhat beneath the surface but you have a story running and it is indeed, running your life.  Have you checked it out lately?  Is it supporting the dreams you have for yourself or where you know you’re meant to go?  Is it lifting you up, providing possibility and encouraging or motivating you?  If your story is not moving you forward, I say, check it out.

Often our stories are very subtle and yet, powerful beyond measure.  They can become our behaviors and thought patterns so fluidly that we literally forget and even convince ourselves that we cannot change or transcend them.  This is just nonsense, resistance, and fear-based thinking that is counter intuitive to living into the gift of life.

They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result. Check out your story and be sure it aligns or is paving the way for where you know you are meant to be.  You deserve this and so does humanity.

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20 – Be Amazing!

Why don’t we all just be Amazing?  Who or what is standing in our way?  Or better yet, rather than pondering that question, just go be Amazing, anyways.  It really can be that simple if we let it.  No need to show up half way, second rate, wishing to be somewhere else.  Just choose in to wherever you are.  Right now.  Do it.  Be Amazing.  Please.










P.S. Thx EC!

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23 – Affirmation

I learned about creating affirmations so many years ago and they continue to support me in calling forward the experience I am seeking.  After I clarify the quality or qualities that I would like to make a focus, I play until I find an affirmation statement that captures the qualities that I am intending to manifest.  This year they are Surrender and Grace.

Words are so powerful and they can be quite evocative and compelling when crafted together in a way that has heart and meaning for you.  Last year it became clear to me that a new pathway into greater fulfillment and expansion would be in my ability to surrender, to turn over whatever illusion of control I was holding and to trust that God and the universe have my back.  And, the only way I would be able to experience that is if I stepped forward with my heart in my hands and the willingness even when I was challenged to let go.

Grace, as you can see from the name of this blog, is an anchor word for me.  I experience and see grace as equal to peace, elegance, softness, beauty, and a presence of purity.  Embodying grace fully is equal to what some may call a Zen moment.  It is kind of my “namaste.”  When I am honoring myself with grace, I can easily do the same with you.

And then woven throughout my affirmation statement is the connecting it all to God, to Spirit, and my ability (should I choose) to listen inside to the God voice within me, the one that knows all that I truly need to know at any given moment.  Learning to exercise this skill and way of being is the purpose of my affirmation statement.

I am so grateful for this tool and I share it with you. Love.

jh affirmation 2012

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24 – Dinner

Just for kicks and giggles, I am sharing my din-din tonight.  It was a bit of the United Nations for sure!

first course….

chips and salsa, baby!










second course….

bok choy. YUM!

first course 1

first course 2









third course

turkey meatballs with a little parma…Scrumptious! If I don’t say so myself!

second course










raspberries and dark almond bark…the perfect closer!


I felt inspired to share this because it was just so simple to pull this together for myself.  I love to cook (after receiving many sweet lessons over the years from my Momma and a dear friend) and I have found that many things can be pulled together quite quickly.

I have been challenged at times to cook for myself because it can be difficult to cook for one person.  It can turn it into a production which is quite fun and then leads to food being tossed out because I can’t eat it all in time.  This in-senses me so then I back off from cooking and find myself eating out too much.

Tonight I threw the rule book out and and let my tastebuds direct me with what I had purchased on Sunday at TJ’s.  I made the turkey meatballs last night and I keep them in the pot and place them back in the fridge once they are cool.  (I am not a nuker.)

The bok choy was inspired from when I used to order this delicious won ton soup with baby bok choy in it from a yummy Thai place in San Diego and since then I have these random bok choy cravings.  I had no idea until I saw them in the produce section of TJ’s how easy and QUICK they are to make.  Truly, under 5 minutes!

So I had some fun with my dinner tonight and it took little effort and it felt nice to do this for myself.  Have you noticed that when you do something to take care of yourself, it feels good?

Go on; go do something to take care of YOU!


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