8
July

In the way

Are you in the way?

Come on. Somewhere, you are in your own way.

And where might you be holding a place in someone else’s way? Someone you love. Someone you compete with inside yourself or someone you compare yourself to and where you have made up some cockamamie story that they have something you don’t or should have.

Where are you using someone else’s life or your perception thereof as an excuse to be in your own way?

Where are you in the way?

In the way of your life, of your dreams, of experiencing the fullness of you, of your God-given destiny?  Where have you exchanged that gift for a lesser, easier, more comfortable version of life because it’s the road more traveled, it’s familiar, it’s less likely to cause any ruckus or draw attention to you. You are used to it.

Where are you making stuff up inside your head impeding your connection, your direct and Divine connection to your Heart?

What’s the place where you so easily block yourself? Whats the spot you call your weakness? Your vulnerability?

It just may be your portal through.

Find it. Call it. Know it.

And shine the LIGHT all over it.

Pray. Meditate. Get quiet near it and ask for help.

A coach, therapist, a good listening friend.

God. He/She’s there. Any time.

The way is clear.

Anytime you are ready.

The way can be made clear.

For your consideration…

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13
June

Becoming who you are…

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This past weekend I spent two nights “glamping” at El Capitan Canyon with 7 of my best high school friends and their families. It was awesome! I actually think this was the first time being with them that I was exactly who I am and was totally comfortable.

We told the stories that need to be told that bring us back to who we were (and still are) and what brought us together way back when. The personality and uniqueness of each one of us came forward in just the same intonation and timing as it does each time we are together. Not to be too sappy but it was a sweet symphony to experience. We are a bit of an eclectic group as it relates to where all of our lives have gone and yet, the nuances of where we all came from – pretty much the same place, was still present. We recognized our good fortune, then and now, and we remembered.

It was a clear reminder for me of the blessing I received when I switched schools in the ninth grade. Initially I was not a happy camper because I skipped graduating junior high due to the new school beginning high school with the ninth grade. However, come tenth grade, I began my friendships with them and they proceeded to really deepen and grow in the eleventh and twelfth years. Had I stayed where we lived prior, it’s possible I would not have gone to undergraduate. I really don’t know. As well, they were kind of a pack which in some aspects began in junior high or earlier and I somehow found myself in the middle of that pack. Sweet. It’s a lot of fun in high school when you have a great group of friends. I have always known that I got lucky.

What I took away from this short time with them was a deeper acceptance and appreciation for who I am. In our high school years, we are so impressionable and we live and breath often by the thoughts, feelings and reactions of our friends. Being with them was a reminder that their love and acceptance was always there – even if we did judge each other from time to time as teenagers. Our friendship was unconditional and it still is.

Allowing it be okay to be who we really are is a game that resides within. It’s so easy to think it’s outside ourselves especially as inexperienced beings. I felt such a sweet sense of resolve and gratitude for the love I have with and for them and also that I can be me. They would have been the ones I would have cared most what they thought and I got in their presence that when I am okay with me, then they will be too – as would the universe. How we feel inside is mirrored back to us. It’s an energetic gift. That way we can see how we are projecting ourselves in the world.

It’s ALL for us. All of it. Friends. Events. Experiences. Learnings. If we choose to see it through that filter.

For your consideration…

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9
June

Excavation

I don’t like to be advice giving but there are things I am going to write about in this blog that may sound so. We are all in choice, so just remember that I know this.

You have to be willing to go deep, go under the layers, look behind, underneath, deeper, or even further out, if you really want to know yourself. I am not saying you all need to do this or it’s imperative for one to know oneself. However if you have any strands within you that match mine, this is true for you too.

There are so many layers to us and I am not just speaking about layers that come with time on the planet and life experience, or our personality, or stories of heart break, or even behavior patterns. There are depths that come from prior to us even arriving here. Don’t ask me to explain that; I am not there yet. And I know it’s true. At least for me it is.

My point being, we are dynamic, multi-faceted, energy infused miracles of Light and there is so much more to every single one of us then meets the eye. Or ear for that matter. It’s a wonderland, truly. Who we are. If we choose to see it that way.

I am an excavator. I like to dig and learn, and dig some more. Not just about me. For sure. I should have been an anthropologist. We are so interesting. Even those of us that think for sure we are not. There are layers awaiting excavation.

The point of this post is to call this out. Highlight it. Champion it. Because I want to. And also because I am in a really interesting place, where I have space, and time and I like to excavate. Sometimes I can use the findings against myself but I am happy to note that I have learned a few things from a few smart people that have taught me that I also have dominion and discernment. I can choose to receive learnings in the spirit of Loving and appreciating myself more or I can go another path. I have spent many a year down the other path – the self-improvement path, which often came with an obsession of needing to be better or just someone other than who I am. And that’s okay too. It’s all about the learning. I am just more aware now that the excavation doesn’t need to be about rejecting myself, rather about deepening in my conscious connection with who I am and why I am here.

I am excavating a bit right now.

I am learning things about myself that I didn’t know. I am learning that I want to be seen and heard. Not in an egotistical way, rather, in a way that uses my special powers for good. I am learning that I don’t care so much what everyone thinks. I have just carried that belief around for so long that I thought it was still true for me. I am learning that I can change a life long habit through choice and literally placing myself in and out of situations that support that, over and over again.  I am learning that I don’t need to explain myself to anyone. I am learning that I came here to do deep and profound work on knowing my Soul. I don’t know why that is, I just know that it is.

I am excavating and learning. It’s a good thing.

For your consideration…

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3
June

Finding the Blessing in Vertigo…

This past Sunday after I got myself to the beautiful sands of Santa Monica, I turned my head to grab something out of my bag and when I turned back it seemed the world was spinning around me. I knew this feeling. Back in 2004, I had a 5 day bout with vertigo that rocked me to the core. At that time, it was never really clear where it came from because I hadn’t had a cold or any infections to speak of.  After spending three days not being able to do much because I was walking into walls, I got myself to the emergency room where they eventually released me with anti-nausea and anti-dizzy medications. I experienced a few more small incidences over the years but none quite like that time nor the space I am encountering now.

When I experienced this at the beach this past Sunday my first thought was waiting to see if it would pass. Kind of like when an earthquake hits us here in Los Angeles, I wait to see if I need to hustle my butt to a door frame for safety. Well, I waited and it appeared the feeling of sensing I was on a boat and not on steady ground did not seem to pass. I had only arrived at the beach about 20 minutes prior so I contemplated if I should leave or attempt to enjoy a few hours of sun and blue sea. The idea of moving didn’t appeal to me due to my phobia of nausea so I stayed for a bit.  I even turned over – you know, the objective of achieving the even tan, and that lasted for a little over an hour.  I eventually got myself up and very carefully and slowly got dressed, and walked myself through the sand back to my car. I felt like an alien in my body.

I am not sure how but I safely drove myself home taking quieter, less active streets. When I arrived home, I laid down on my sofa and began contemplating the meaning and purpose of this experience. I felt a sense of peace and resolve. This has really never been my reaction when ever feeling nausea let alone feeling out of control of my body and physical experience. I felt this knowing that it was a message and my willingness and ability to receive that was important.

In the past, I have often rejected discomfort or things occurring that I didn’t plan for or want to be experiencing and despite this definitely being uncomfortable, I just went with it. And I still am. I discovered today that I do have some liquid behind my inner ear – no infection. However the liquid may be causing the imbalance.  After some swimming last week in a heated pool and lots of hot yoga, I believe I am a bit dehydrated and maybe a little run down. I am so used to pushing, doing, and always going that it still stumps me when my body is seeking rest. I create time for exercise, meditation, and other self-care regimes so I just didn’t see this one coming. However, that sense of calm that came when laying on the beach feeling the earth spinning was my Inner Knowing saying, “hey, girl, this is for you.” I know that may sound crazy like why would having vertigo be for you, and the truth is I am not completely clear exactly why but here is what I have come up with so far.

– You are in an awesome place of transition and transformation. Coming into balance with ALL of who you are is a beautiful gift for stepping into what is next.

– You often think you need to do it all by yourself.  Well you need to eat and you cannot drive so opening yourself up to the Love and assistance of your friends is available right now.

– When you don’t feel good inside you sometimes look to others to “help you feel better.” Here is your opportunity to show up for yourself, love yourself despite how you FEEL. (Take dominion.)

– You ego likes to control things and outcomes. How about if you just be in this place of unknowing and experience not knowing with a little Grace? Perform an experiment like the smart social scientist that you are.

And there are others. The message being there is meaning in all that occurs and we decide, I decide, when to look at it and when to overlook it. And we (I) also decide when to use it for our Selves or against ourselves.

With the assistance of some Loving friends, funny text messages, inspiring en*theos videos, and a deep connection to Spirit, I am going with this one…For me.

For your consideration…

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12
October

Mary J + Cardio = Magic!

What is your MAGIC?

My powerful coach, Steve Chandler speaks about his coach, Steve Hardison as being a Magical Motivator for him.  I love this!  We all have motivators in our lives – some that come in the form of our coach, some are experiences we had that push us to want change in our lives, some of us are easily motivated with goals we set for ourselves.  If we are smart, we have stacked our lives with our magical motivators.

My coach, the first Steve, is definitely a motivator in my life and he shares his magic with me in our coaching sessions and also in the numerous books he has written.

I have been internally motivated to achieve certain successes based on how I decided as a little girl I wanted my life to go.  It’s amazing the contracts we make with ourselves when we are growing up that push our lives in certain directions.

I also feel called to share that one of my most amazing motivators is cardio exercise and Mary J Blige!  Maybe that sounds too simple.  But I have to tell you, it is powerful what happens for me when my heart rate is up and she is singing one of her brilliant lyrics in my ears.

What got me excited this morning to write this post was the richness of my experience while running the strand on Santa Monica beach.  I do this run about once a week and each time I struggle a bit to get going.  I see the beauty of the water which motivates me some and then within a few minutes the challenge of the cardio – my heart rate being pushed, I get fatigued and want to stop.

I have learned to listen to my body.  I know when there is an opportunity to push myself to a new level.   Although the physical pain makes me want to forget, I can remember the glory I feel when I get to the other side.  This may be, by the way, a matter of 8-12 minutes.  And I share all that because usually after those few minutes, I am now on the other side and what opens up inside me is profound.

My mind gets clear.

My creativity flows free.

I see nothing but possibility and it feels really good.

It’s from this place, I can formulate my day in way that lifts me up.  I receive downloads of ideas that excite me to action.  Or I acutely connect to the beauty of a fellow runners smile.  All of this fills up my personal gas tank to serve my self so I can serve in the world.

So, I ask you, what is your MAGIC?  Are you your biggest advocate placing motivators all around your life?  If not, why the heck not?

For your consideration…

 

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19
August

Can you help someone be even more awesome?

We all have the ability to help others be even more awesome than they already are!

I received an email from this designer/blogger I recently discovered, sharing an inspiring and refreshing video featuring inventor and co-founder of the company SugruJane ni Dhulchaointigh.  I have no idea what is the deal with her last name and yet I sense it is very fitting.  Although she is super honest and displays her humanness so beautifully, you learn from her story that she is anything but simple.  What stood out the most in her sharing was how she continuously listened to and was open to feedback when she was feeling stuck.  Her dedication to her passion to make something that was useful and to follow the flow of this thing that was to be one of her life contributions was fantastic to witness.

I especially felt inspired by the numerous examples she shared that demonstrated the beauty of the human spirit.  As she shared each one, I enjoyed seeing it reflected through her – how her commitment to trust and be who she is, fostered a space for others to come forward to assist her and her company, and also to benefit from her invention.  Pure goodness!

Key takeaways that could be applied to any part of our lives:

  • Believe in what you are doing – if not, what is the point?
  • Treat your customers as royalty – they are the key to our enduring success
  • Can you help people be even more awesome? – why wouldn’t we want to do this?

Enjoy!

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14
July

Just cuz

Who knew broccoli could elicit such fun?!?

I remember seeing this skit for the first time in college and laughing my arse off! Dana Carvey is a master.

And just in case you fell out of love with broccoli lately, here is a delicious recipe I came across from the beautiful Daphne Oz.

Enjoy!

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8
July

Silence

I’ve become more and more aware of the beauty and joy of silence. It is in the pure silence that I have experienced such utter peace or what I sense peace feels like. The silence of no negative self talk or the pesky gremlin questioning my choices or the old, old, old voice almost feels like from another life (call me woo woo if you like) that likes to make me wrong about a lot of things. I don’t think I am alone in this way or somehow especially special. I do know that for as long as I can remember, I’ve been on an introspective discovery of living. When my friends were reading or rather not reading in high school, I was reading M. Scott Peck’s, The Road Less Traveled. I got heckled about my “self-help” interests but I was seeking understanding. Whatever that looks like at 16 years of age. Now I am beginning to understand that my mind will never stop desiring to understand. What I was seeking (and often still do) through the understanding, is peace. And I’m learning more and more each day that peace is in my heart and the way to my heart often is silence. When there’s no words needed to fill a moment just the experience. When the voices I mentioned above are on hiatus. When I’m observing myself in neutrality (yes, that is possible). That silence is perfection and it provides a direct access to my heart in the purest state.

For your consideration…

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2
July

Who are you?

Have you ever really asked yourself this question?

I participated in a workshop this past weekend that was life transforming. I experienced a knowing of who I am in a way I never have before. It was profound and beautiful. I am just letting it assimilate in my consciousness. So that is all I can really clearly articulate about the experience.

However, I wanted to share a little experiment that anyone can do. If you were to sit in a comfortable space, close your eyes, maybe light a candle to clear the energy where you’re sitting and put your hand on your heart. If that sounds strange just remember we’re doing an experiment. With your eyes closed and your hand on your heart, ask yourself, Who Am I? (You can say it silently or out loud whichever works for you…remember it’s an experiment.)

Pause.

Listen inside.

Hear the response in your consciousness.

And repeat this for about 10 minutes.

As you go through this experiment be aware of how you feel in your body and what is coming forward. No evaluation or judging is necessary here. Just be in neutral observation of what comes forward when you ask yourself the question, Who Am I?

After about 10 minutes (you can use your phone as a timer) write down in a journal or on a piece of paper what came forward.

Sit with that for awhile and see where this experiment into your heart took you.

Were there any surprises? Maybe something came forward you haven’t thought of for awhile? An expression of yourself you haven’t given permission to for some time?

Just be with this fresh insight and consider taking one action step that will bring you closer to expressing more of who you truly are.

Come on! No one else can do you like you! And, the world needs more of you being authentically YOU!

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1
July

July 1

There is something about this July 1 and it being on a Monday that really feels like a fresh start. I love fresh starts. It might be an illusion AND it works. Don’t you feel on Mondays it’s like a new beginning? I suppose if your not thrilled with your job, it won’t emote exactly what I’m speaking to and yet it is a fresh start.

Being that it is July 1, which is exactly one half of the year, there is a fresh start to the second half of the year. Anything special you’d like to experience this year? Now is a great time to declare it…whatever it is. You’ve got 6 whole months to make it happen. They say September is the “new” new year. Maybe July 1 is really the “new” new year. Independence day is just a few moments away. Why not? We’ve got red, white and blue party streamers waiting to celebrate.

It may have been a Pollyanna moment. Nonetheless I felt called to share it in case any of you are feeling kinda crappy about something you still haven’t done that you’ve been meaning to do. I know how that goes. The good news? It’s the new new years and now is your chance to make it happen.

All of this to translate: stop talking about it and do it or just stop talking about it. Maybe you aren’t supposed to do it.

Be good to you!

(A good friend says this to me almost every time we’re about to part ways. It’s a really nice reminder of how I can choose to be with myself!)

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