8
July

In the way

Are you in the way?

Come on. Somewhere, you are in your own way.

And where might you be holding a place in someone else’s way? Someone you love. Someone you compete with inside yourself or someone you compare yourself to and where you have made up some cockamamie story that they have something you don’t or should have.

Where are you using someone else’s life or your perception thereof as an excuse to be in your own way?

Where are you in the way?

In the way of your life, of your dreams, of experiencing the fullness of you, of your God-given destiny?  Where have you exchanged that gift for a lesser, easier, more comfortable version of life because it’s the road more traveled, it’s familiar, it’s less likely to cause any ruckus or draw attention to you. You are used to it.

Where are you making stuff up inside your head impeding your connection, your direct and Divine connection to your Heart?

What’s the place where you so easily block yourself? Whats the spot you call your weakness? Your vulnerability?

It just may be your portal through.

Find it. Call it. Know it.

And shine the LIGHT all over it.

Pray. Meditate. Get quiet near it and ask for help.

A coach, therapist, a good listening friend.

God. He/She’s there. Any time.

The way is clear.

Anytime you are ready.

The way can be made clear.

For your consideration…

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2
July

A critical question to ask yourself…

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This may sound so basic and yet I find in life that the simplest things tend to be the most profound, especially when they are brought forward at the perfect, synchronistic time.

This question was offered to me by my coach and it lives on the chalkboard in my living area. Why? Because I choose to remind myself of this very simple and powerful question.

Where am I coming from?

Right now. In this moment. When I make a choice. Or decide something about myself or my life. When I answer an email. When I speak with someone I love. Or anyone for that matter. Where am I inside? Where am I coming from? What place? What space? What mental thought or emotion?

Think about it.

For a moment.

If we give ourselves the opportunity to ask this question before we act, decide, do…imagine the impact on the outcome.

Tremendous.

If we create the space to intentionally decide where we want to come from rather than being at the mercy of one dimension of ourselves. To be mindful. Thoughtful.

What would that be like? For you?

For your consideration.

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12
October

Mary J + Cardio = Magic!

What is your MAGIC?

My powerful coach, Steve Chandler speaks about his coach, Steve Hardison as being a Magical Motivator for him.  I love this!  We all have motivators in our lives – some that come in the form of our coach, some are experiences we had that push us to want change in our lives, some of us are easily motivated with goals we set for ourselves.  If we are smart, we have stacked our lives with our magical motivators.

My coach, the first Steve, is definitely a motivator in my life and he shares his magic with me in our coaching sessions and also in the numerous books he has written.

I have been internally motivated to achieve certain successes based on how I decided as a little girl I wanted my life to go.  It’s amazing the contracts we make with ourselves when we are growing up that push our lives in certain directions.

I also feel called to share that one of my most amazing motivators is cardio exercise and Mary J Blige!  Maybe that sounds too simple.  But I have to tell you, it is powerful what happens for me when my heart rate is up and she is singing one of her brilliant lyrics in my ears.

What got me excited this morning to write this post was the richness of my experience while running the strand on Santa Monica beach.  I do this run about once a week and each time I struggle a bit to get going.  I see the beauty of the water which motivates me some and then within a few minutes the challenge of the cardio – my heart rate being pushed, I get fatigued and want to stop.

I have learned to listen to my body.  I know when there is an opportunity to push myself to a new level.   Although the physical pain makes me want to forget, I can remember the glory I feel when I get to the other side.  This may be, by the way, a matter of 8-12 minutes.  And I share all that because usually after those few minutes, I am now on the other side and what opens up inside me is profound.

My mind gets clear.

My creativity flows free.

I see nothing but possibility and it feels really good.

It’s from this place, I can formulate my day in way that lifts me up.  I receive downloads of ideas that excite me to action.  Or I acutely connect to the beauty of a fellow runners smile.  All of this fills up my personal gas tank to serve my self so I can serve in the world.

So, I ask you, what is your MAGIC?  Are you your biggest advocate placing motivators all around your life?  If not, why the heck not?

For your consideration…

 

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19
August

Can you help someone be even more awesome?

We all have the ability to help others be even more awesome than they already are!

I received an email from this designer/blogger I recently discovered, sharing an inspiring and refreshing video featuring inventor and co-founder of the company SugruJane ni Dhulchaointigh.  I have no idea what is the deal with her last name and yet I sense it is very fitting.  Although she is super honest and displays her humanness so beautifully, you learn from her story that she is anything but simple.  What stood out the most in her sharing was how she continuously listened to and was open to feedback when she was feeling stuck.  Her dedication to her passion to make something that was useful and to follow the flow of this thing that was to be one of her life contributions was fantastic to witness.

I especially felt inspired by the numerous examples she shared that demonstrated the beauty of the human spirit.  As she shared each one, I enjoyed seeing it reflected through her – how her commitment to trust and be who she is, fostered a space for others to come forward to assist her and her company, and also to benefit from her invention.  Pure goodness!

Key takeaways that could be applied to any part of our lives:

  • Believe in what you are doing – if not, what is the point?
  • Treat your customers as royalty – they are the key to our enduring success
  • Can you help people be even more awesome? – why wouldn’t we want to do this?

Enjoy!

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17
July

for you, for me

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I’m still learning how to do this. It sounds so nice and lovely and yet there are often many distractions between our heart and our Selves.

Our ego which serves us in many ways (living in these human bodies), can also be the louder voice. It can show up as fear, doubt, resistance, reasoning, protection, and many other forms. Some of my favorite thought leaders speak about this so clearly and succinctly, here and here.

Steven Pressfield writes, “A child has no trouble believing the unbelievable, nor does the genius or the madman. It’s only you and I, with our big brains and our tiny hearts, who doubt and overthink and hesitate.”

For your consideration…

PS: Feel free to save the image above if you feel called. I made it with the pic lab app! So much fun!!

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11
July

Pushing Your Limits

What’s the most unusual, some what “out of character” thing you’ve done?

Lately?

Are you willing to reach outside your comfort zone? To step into a reality or way of being that isn’t necessarily comfortable for you?

Why?

Why not?

When we allow ourselves the space to reach, to stretch, and to move towards unfamiliarity we are growing ourselves. When we grow, we expand, when we expand we open up more fully to what is possible in our lives. There is so much fruit there.

To have an experience of observing your own expansion is like watching a time lapse video of a beautiful flower blooming. I’m not speaking about patting yourself on the back, like a job well done. (Although there is nothing wrong with that in my book.) I’m bringing forward more, the idea that there is something extraordinary to experience when you step out and up and you consciously recognize that you’ve done so.

It’s the best kind of esteem builder you will ever have and it requires only you.

So take the challenge. Write down 1-3 things that you’ve considered or thought about doing that perhaps fear or discomfort have kept you from. By the way, procrastination is often fear in a bunny suit – it might be cozy and safe and it’s just a resting spot. Create a space to move towards one of the three that you captured. Perhaps tell a trusted friend what you plan to do so you have some internal accountability. See what happens.

For your consideration…

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1
July

July 1

There is something about this July 1 and it being on a Monday that really feels like a fresh start. I love fresh starts. It might be an illusion AND it works. Don’t you feel on Mondays it’s like a new beginning? I suppose if your not thrilled with your job, it won’t emote exactly what I’m speaking to and yet it is a fresh start.

Being that it is July 1, which is exactly one half of the year, there is a fresh start to the second half of the year. Anything special you’d like to experience this year? Now is a great time to declare it…whatever it is. You’ve got 6 whole months to make it happen. They say September is the “new” new year. Maybe July 1 is really the “new” new year. Independence day is just a few moments away. Why not? We’ve got red, white and blue party streamers waiting to celebrate.

It may have been a Pollyanna moment. Nonetheless I felt called to share it in case any of you are feeling kinda crappy about something you still haven’t done that you’ve been meaning to do. I know how that goes. The good news? It’s the new new years and now is your chance to make it happen.

All of this to translate: stop talking about it and do it or just stop talking about it. Maybe you aren’t supposed to do it.

Be good to you!

(A good friend says this to me almost every time we’re about to part ways. It’s a really nice reminder of how I can choose to be with myself!)

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26
June

Let’s Be in the Love

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There is a lot of loving going on right now with the amazing news today! And a whole lot of singing too, Im sure.

I felt inspired to fly on the tails of this beautiful news to encourage all of us to be asking the question, “What Makes Your Heart Sing?” In the spirit of equality, freedom, and the open-heartedness that is in the air, it’s okay to be doing things, moving towards, being with whatever makes your Heart sing. Life is just too short to handle it any other way.

Love!

ps. I just wrote this blog post from my iPhone! Yes!

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18
May

I’m Sorry

Why do we apologize so much?

I recently realized how much I apologize and say “I’m sorry.”  You might be busy when I call you and I can hear it in your voice upon your answering.  I apologize.  Something didn’t come out the way you thought it would and I am involved yet not really responsible.  I apologize.  I decide that I prefer not to do something that I may have agreed to prior.  I apologize.   I am sure many of you can relate.

The thing is, how would I know you were busy when I called, you didn’t have to answer or better yet, how about I just acknowledge by sharing why I called and skip over the apology.  That might feel awkward, right?  When whatever it was didn’t go as planned, how about moving into what’s next.  There are probably great learnings in there for which an apology is definitely not merited.  And the final one, I changed my mind.  That might disappoint someone, but really I may just be taking care of myself in some way, and there is no need to apologize there either.

I understand that we often say and do things unconsciously because we learned them and/or because they are a verbal bridge, you know, like filling in a pause.  I mean, I use to say, “Like, she was all” and “Like, I know.” :-) (Okay, back in the early 80’s) And I also understand that our expression is telling a lot to ourselves and to the universe about who we are, what we are, and what we want.  The word apology by definition means to express regret or remorse for having failed or injured another.  I’d rather reserve the “I’m sorry” for when a real apology is appropriate and needed.

You might be thinking this is kind of silly and it doesn’t mean anything or you could do an experiment with me for the next 2-3 days and see how often you say, “I’m Sorry” or “sorry.”  How many times that you say it, is it truly merited, or are you just filling in space where there might not be any words needed?  Oooh, the uncomfortable silent pause.  That’s what it might feel like.

Let’s do it and report back, please!

For your consideration…

 

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1
May

2 – REbound

First let me start by saying, Thank You!  Thank You for reading along with me.  Whether you have read all of the last 30 posts or a few here and there, thank you!   I set out to complete a 32 day process of writing in this blog to kickstart my writing process.  You know, to WD-40 the writing joint?!?  That being said, I don’t see myself posting daily and clogging up everyone’s inbox with my daily notes.  And I also don’t foresee myself writing so much about myself.  The commitment of writing daily pushed me to look inside and find something new to share each day.  With a little more time in between writing, I can explore more, take a few pics with my fancy cameras (and then glamourize them with all my apps) and focus in on some areas that I love.  Like books, people, places, and a little fashion, too!  Okay, maybe a lot of fashion!  Point being more to come only less frequently.

So, what is REbound you ask?

Me!  Today I experienced myself completing a full rebound!  As I shared in my last post about procrastination, I was up late last night completing and had an 8am appt this morning.  Not enough sleep for this girl.  I was grouchy, frustrated, short tempered, and then judging myself for all of the above.  I had a few interactions with some people that triggered the heck out of me and I was ripe for a brawl!  I got the dark side, YEP!, and it was rearing to go today.  At about 10.15a, after a lovely co-worker tried to say good morning and I scowled, I decided it was time for an intervention with myself.  You see, I work in a tight environment.  There is no hiding.  And when that dark side is mirrored back to me it just makes it more amplified and yucky.  So I got up and went for a short walk, vented to a friend, let the energy go, and I chose to re-engage my day.  It wasn’t easy at first.  I was in that energy of a stubborn, petulant child.  I was frustrated and I wanted to be. Not really, but you know what I mean when you get stuck in something and instead of releasing the pressure, it just builds in our attempt to justify it.  Well, guess what?  I let it go.  I just chose to remember who I am and that none of it really matters anyways and that being in that energetic would just suck ASS!  So I gave it up.

Tonight when I was cooking myself some delicious foods and feeling so good for taking care of myself, I had the awareness that I had totally rebounded my day.  It wasn’t a crappy day at all.  It was a great day!  Yes!

WE all have superpowers.  We just have to be willing to use them.

For your consideration…

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