Tag: evolution


In the way

8
July

Are you in the way?

Come on. Somewhere, you are in your own way.

And where might you be holding a place in someone else’s way? Someone you love. Someone you compete with inside yourself or someone you compare yourself to and where you have made up some cockamamie story that they have something you don’t or should have.

Where are you using someone else’s life or your perception thereof as an excuse to be in your own way?

Where are you in the way?

In the way of your life, of your dreams, of experiencing the fullness of you, of your God-given destiny?  Where have you exchanged that gift for a lesser, easier, more comfortable version of life because it’s the road more traveled, it’s familiar, it’s less likely to cause any ruckus or draw attention to you. You are used to it.

Where are you making stuff up inside your head impeding your connection, your direct and Divine connection to your Heart?

What’s the place where you so easily block yourself? Whats the spot you call your weakness? Your vulnerability?

It just may be your portal through.

Find it. Call it. Know it.

And shine the LIGHT all over it.

Pray. Meditate. Get quiet near it and ask for help.

A coach, therapist, a good listening friend.

God. He/She’s there. Any time.

The way is clear.

Anytime you are ready.

The way can be made clear.

For your consideration…

4 comments » | behavior, choice, connection, personal growth, self-leadership, spirituality

Clarity vs. Choosing

20
June

I began writing about this almost a year ago when I was in a transition and searching for the “right” answer to my next steps. I started agonizing a bit over feeling like I didn’t “know” what to do and that felt so uncomfortable. I don’t think I was looking for absolute certainty (or maybe I was), it was just a sense of ‘this is the right path’ or ‘that is the better path,’ for me, right now. And a dear friend reflected back to me that sometimes it’s more about making a choice and allowing the clarity to follow. That resonated with me immediately.

Why had I been forcing on myself some controlled outcome of my choices and my life?

That sense of pushing was not getting me the clarity either. When I relaxed into the idea that if I chose a next step and let that play out, I would become clear if I was on track or if I needed to redirect.

I think we often feel that we don’t have the luxury of choosing and trusting, with bigger decisions in our life. I sense we live more in a mindset where we believe we have to map it out, think it through, make pros and cons lists, talk it over with a trusted friend or advisor, hem and haw, whatever.  And I am not saying all of those are not helpful, the key is that after you’ve done all that and you are still having questions, it might be helpful to make a choice and see what happens.

I am a moderate planner of things and yet I have come to realize that I have really mapped out my life even in an unconscious way. Stepping more into a flow and trusting my instincts, my gut, my intuition, versus always rationalizing my feelings in my mind is a more supportive approach.  The energy of that approach is light, open, expansive, and relaxed. The outcome I am looking for is fulfillment. For me, fulfillment usually comes from the experience of something. I cannot know if I am fulfilled unless I have an experiential reference point. If I am spending all of my energy attempting to create an outcome, or make it happen, I am not so sure I am very present to what’s occurring and to what is available.  When I let go of needing to know and I make a choice, I arrive where I arrive. Essentially, I take myself out of my head and into my life.

The clarity does come later. It’s really quite miraculous. It’s the reward for letting go, releasing the grip on needing it to be or look a certain way and trusting the flow of life.

I have recently found myself in another space of exploring options and this question of “knowing” is present again. This time I am not really making demands of myself to know, rather I am following my energy, my flow of inspiration.  (I will share more about that in another post. :-))

Everything is for us.

For your consideration.

2 comments » | choice, inspiration, personal growth

Becoming who you are…

13
June

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This past weekend I spent two nights “glamping” at El Capitan Canyon with 7 of my best high school friends and their families. It was awesome! I actually think this was the first time being with them that I was exactly who I am and was totally comfortable.

We told the stories that need to be told that bring us back to who we were (and still are) and what brought us together way back when. The personality and uniqueness of each one of us came forward in just the same intonation and timing as it does each time we are together. Not to be too sappy but it was a sweet symphony to experience. We are a bit of an eclectic group as it relates to where all of our lives have gone and yet, the nuances of where we all came from – pretty much the same place, was still present. We recognized our good fortune, then and now, and we remembered.

It was a clear reminder for me of the blessing I received when I switched schools in the ninth grade. Initially I was not a happy camper because I skipped graduating junior high due to the new school beginning high school with the ninth grade. However, come tenth grade, I began my friendships with them and they proceeded to really deepen and grow in the eleventh and twelfth years. Had I stayed where we lived prior, it’s possible I would not have gone to undergraduate. I really don’t know. As well, they were kind of a pack which in some aspects began in junior high or earlier and I somehow found myself in the middle of that pack. Sweet. It’s a lot of fun in high school when you have a great group of friends. I have always known that I got lucky.

What I took away from this short time with them was a deeper acceptance and appreciation for who I am. In our high school years, we are so impressionable and we live and breath often by the thoughts, feelings and reactions of our friends. Being with them was a reminder that their love and acceptance was always there – even if we did judge each other from time to time as teenagers. Our friendship was unconditional and it still is.

Allowing it be okay to be who we really are is a game that resides within. It’s so easy to think it’s outside ourselves especially as inexperienced beings. I felt such a sweet sense of resolve and gratitude for the love I have with and for them and also that I can be me. They would have been the ones I would have cared most what they thought and I got in their presence that when I am okay with me, then they will be too – as would the universe. How we feel inside is mirrored back to us. It’s an energetic gift. That way we can see how we are projecting ourselves in the world.

It’s ALL for us. All of it. Friends. Events. Experiences. Learnings. If we choose to see it through that filter.

For your consideration…

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